As we near our six month anniversary, I wanted to write a post about marriage so far. Marriage is simply wonderful, and I wanted to do something to illustrate both people who make marriage work. I came across this fun post idea on High Heels and Combat Boots, and I just had to do it!
This is a series of interview type questions about our love and marriage. It’s just a fun questionnaire, but the best part is that both my husband and I answered the questions. Marriage is about two perspectives, so I wanted to share both of our perspectives to these questions.
It was so cute to go back and reminisce on our relationship, as well as celebrate the different aspects of our journey that has led us to where we are.
Connor and I met in middle school, started dating in high school, got engaged in college, and just got married this past May. We spent all of college in a long distance relationship while he was studying at West Point. We have known each other most of our lives, and we’ve been through a lot, but we made it through. And the rest is history!
What quality first caught your attention about the other person?
Him: I thought her eyes were beautiful and she was really nice. Whenever I talked to her, she made me feel like I was the only person in the world. She would ignore everyone else and focus all of her attention on me. I really liked that.
Her: Just being around him made me feel so comfortable, like I had found my best friend. It usually takes me some time to become comfortable around people, but it wasn’t like that with him.
What is your most memorable date together?
Him: My favorite date was a simple movie date, but when she was dropping me off at my house, I finally brought up enough courage to ask her out for the first time. That is what started everything.
Her: We’ve had so many dates! My favorite date was a few years ago. I flew out to New York to see Connor for my birthday. My present from him was a Broadway show! We spent the day shopping in New York City for a date-night outfit and then went to see The Lion King on Broadway. It was amazing!
How long did you date before you got engaged?
Him: Well we started dating junior year of high school and did not get engaged until the senior summer of college; however, that does not count since we could not have gotten married while I was at West Point.
Her: Five years, so… too long. Just kidding!! Like Connor said, we couldn’t get married until he graduated from West Point, so we weren’t in a rush to get engaged. We knew we were going to be together forever, so we just enjoyed our time dating until it was the right time to get engaged.
What was the proposal like?
Him: It was on our trip to the DC area. In the morning, I scheduled a morning brunch cruise on the Potomac River. Then, we walked around the river basin to the Jefferson memorial (it was her favorite). I pretended that I needed help taking our picture, so I asked a security guard to take the pictures. Then when we were posing, I got down on one knee and asked her. I don’t really remember what happened after that.
Her: Perfect! It’s an indescribable feeling seeing the man you love asking you to spend forever with him. And he was so sweet to have someone there to capture the moment for us, because I was so excited that I don’t think I would have remembered much of it otherwise.
When did you realize that you wanted to marry the other person?
Him: I had the feeling that I wanted to marry Jen even before dating her. But the time when I really thought about marrying her was during my first year of West Point.
Her: Like Connor, I pretty much knew right away. But I thought about it much more seriously when he was at West Point.
How did you realize you wanted to marry them?
Him: I knew after Jen decided to stay with me throughout my first year of West Point. She was everything I needed and wanted.
Her: When Connor was at West Point, we would go months at a time without seeing each other. It was horrible, and I knew I could never really be apart from him permanently. When we were able to be together for holidays and vacations, there was no better feeling. I realized that as long as we were together, that’s all I would ever need.
What is your favorite thing to do together?
Him: Drink wine!!! And visit wineries.
Her: Yep, drink wine! But we can do anything together and I’ll be happy.
What was your favorite part about the wedding?
Him: The vows. Or the cake cutting. Or the saber arch.
Her: The entire ceremony was incredible! We got to stand together in front of God and our loved ones and devote our lives to one another.
What three words would you use to describe marriage so far?
Him: easy, fun, rewarding.
Her: joyful, inspiring, beautiful, love, laughter, faith… did I use too many words? Seriously, I could go on and on! I love being married and being married to my husband is the easiest thing I have ever done.
What is your favorite thing about being married?
Him: Having someone to permanently annoy no matter what. In other words, never being alone. And spending every single day with my best friend.
Her: Finally being with my best friend! After four years of long distance, it’s wonderful to spend time getting to know my husband. And I love having someone I can be my weird self around.
What is the hardest thing about marriage?
Her: Well, I don’t really think there is anything difficult about our marriage! It makes me a little sad when people say that marriage is hard. Maybe I’m just blessed. But the fact that Connor is in the military, and everything that goes along with that, is probably the most challenging part of our marriage.
What are your marriage goals?
Him: I have not really thought about it. I honestly don’t have any. I feel like putting the term “goal” on something makes it a task, and this marriage is easy.
Her: To always make my husband happy and always be working toward becoming a perfect wife. All I want is to honor my husband and make his life wonderful.
We had a great time doing this together and definitely think it would be great for any couple to do! Just enjoy the time together thinking about and celebrating your love and marriage!