Well now… that title makes me sound really unambitious, doesn’t it? But hang on, let me explain!
My entire life I have been good at most things that I try. I wasn’t the superstar of everything, but I have always been pretty successful with my endeavors. I’m mostly talking academically. I’m not trying to brag, I’m just trying to paint the picture that I did well in school.
I was good at English, History, and even Math and Science (surprising considering how much I didn’t enjoy math and science). I was in all Advanced Placement classes, I tested out of an entire year of freshmen-level courses in college, and I graduated from both high school and college with high honors.
I could be anything I wanted.
But what I wanted to be was not something that could be graded, and would probably never make me successful in the career-world.
If you asked 7 year old Jennifer what she wanted to be when she grew up, she would smile back at you, and proudly pronounce, “I want to be a mommy.”
Call me crazy, call me old-fashioned, call me an anti-feminist, call me lazy or unambitious, call me whatever you want. The fact of the matter is, my passions never drew me towards being a “career woman”. And there is nothing wrong with that.
My passion is for my family that is just beginning, and for my family that only exists in my dreams for the future. My passion is for my husband, and for the children that we do not yet have. My passion is for caring for my babies, for teaching them, guiding them, and experiencing life alongside them.
You won’t find me sitting behind a desk for the rest of my life, or having an impressive collection of grey pantsuits. No, I’ll be the woman in jeans driving an SUV to soccer or gymnastics practice.
I always grew up knowing that I would be a stay-at-home mom someday.
That makes it hard to justify going to college and spending thousands of dollars on training for a career that would never be the greatest priority in my life. But I did go to college. I love learning, and I wanted to prove myself as a successful woman.
But, even though I eventually settled on a career path, I always bounced around from interest to interest. I guess I never had tunnel vision on one career because I never saw myself in that life-long career world.
For years women have fought for the right to get a good education and prove themselves in the working world. For years we have fought for the opportunity to do whatever we want. And that’s just it… we have fought for the opportunity to be whatever we want.
It just so happens that, for me, the “whatever I want” is something that fits societies older, perhaps more traditional, norm. And that’s ok.
I know I am blessed with the opportunity to pursue my passions.
It’s funny how women who chose to be stay-at-home moms are sometimes looked down upon because they are not pursuing a career. If the “whatever I want” isn’t something career-oriented, then I seem to have failed somewhere. I know that isn’t true in everyone’s eyes, but sometimes I do feel that way.
But, I have made the choice that women fought so hard for. I have made the choice to be whatever I want. My choice for the future is something that my husband and I have talked about, and it is something that we both feel is best for me and for our family.
Yes, people have told me that I’m “too smart” to be a stay-at-home mom. Well, thank you for complimenting my intelligence! But, rather than be a career-woman, I think I’ll use my intelligence to be teacher to my children and guide them to be, well, whatever they want to be.
If you are a career woman and working is important to you, or if you want more out of life than to “just” be a mom, then that’s great for you! If you can handle both roles successfully, then I think that’s pretty incredible! If you are passionate about something you can make money at, that’s wonderful! You, too, should be celebrated for being whatever you want to be. I’m not saying there is a right way or a wrong way to be a parent, and there’s no right or wrong way to live life. I just know that the career-mom lifestyle isn’t for everyone.
If I was a career woman, I know that I would be sitting at work feeling guilty about not being with my family. I know that I would come home feeling terrible because I would be too tired to be the kind of wife and mother I want to be. I know that I would feel I was wasting one life’s greatest gifts. I know that I would be giving up my passion just to fit the norm of society.
Regardless of where our passions lie, we all deserve to be respected and appreciated for the things that we are passionate about during our time here on earth. We all deserve the opportunity to make the most out of our own lives. We all deserve to be “whatever we want” to be.
For now, Connor and I are happy with our life. We are both working, and we are building the foundations for our future family. It isn’t quite time for me to be a stay-at-home mom (don’t worry mom, you can’t expect to be called “grandma” yet), but my main job and my passion right now is constantly working towards being the kind of woman that I want to be for my family.